since I never got around to reading "heat for dummies"...I've got to focus on "here and now"!!
Hi Mary Ann,
I never read that book, either, so can't help you there, lol. But I do use washable incontinent pads for my dogs, and love them. Of course, walking around the house bleeding wouldn't be as manageable this way. But what about extra large adult diapers for obese people? Or stretch stocking underwear with a pad inside?
This 'may' not be a normal heat cycle, is that correct?
If the exterior tumor is growing as you describe, then I do wonder what 'may' be going on internally in her uterus. Signs of excessive bleeding, just in case these things develop:
*Excessive panting and fast breathing
*Very fast heart rate and/or abnormal rhythm
*Excessive external bleeding
*Pain (does she appear to have pain?)
As you said, our seniors force us to live in the moment, especially those fragile ones like Cheyenne (and my Sherman). Very hard to know which step to take next, other than loving her.
For ME, I gauge it like this:
*How is my dog doing right now, in terms of quality of life?
*If I get the vet involved, how invasive will the workup/intervention be?
*Will those interventions cause my dog pain, and to what extent?
*What are the chances those interventions will make a significant difference in my dog's life, or is there a better chance they will just put us on a road to nowhere?
*If things get out of control here, and my dog starts to deteriorate very quickly, what will my next step be?
*Can I, and how do I, get my dog to my car, with or without help, if she becomes unconscious or too painful to move?
*Where is the closest vet who is available nights and weekends?
*Will my vet make housecalls?
*Do I have backup numbers of vets who make house calls?
*Will my 8yo niece be ok, and which pieces do I want to protect her from?
*What do I think my dog's wishes/needs are right now? Am I reading his/her signals correctly, or should I have another set of trusting eyes to help me?
*Am I willing to help my dog cross the bridge when he/she is ready, even if I am not ready?
*What are my plans to take care of my own emotions, once my dog has passed?
Just writing off the top of my head, in case any of this can help you, or anyone else, in the long run. I find the list (mental list in my case) helpful when I am under duress and start scrambling to make decisions.
Not that you are scrambling to make decisions. It's a 'just in case' list.
As Ruth mentioned, she's overcome so much already, as we've seen so many fragile seniors do along the way. As they say, medicine is more of an art than a science, and sometimes just loving them the way you and your family have loved Cheyenne, will be just enough to keep recharging her.